Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part III

Sometimes when I use my Navy Federal Credit Union visa debit/check card, the employee processing my transaction will thank my husband for his service.  I used to keep my mouth shut and not say anything, sort of the way you say, “Fine,” when someone asks you, “How’s your day?” when in actuality your day has…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part II

In the first part of this post about how infidelity exposes cowardliness,  I mentioned how it is the injured spouse who has to resolve the conflict that the cheating spouse created when he avoided addressing the initial problem at home. When children are involved, including adult children, many people will turn to the woman/wife/mother and…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part I

When the divorce attorney asked me about marriage counseling, I was thrown off for a second, but only a second.  Intellectually, I know it is something offered or recommended for many divorcing couples.  However, I haven’t thought of it because from day one, I declared that infidelity would be a deal breaker, and I meant…

Why the Homewrecker is a Whore

When I read people playing the feminist card complaining about how the other woman shouldn’t be blamed when a married man cheats, I can’t do anything but roll my eyes. No one is letting the man off the hook.  It’s not zero sum. Women who are cheated on can’t let the cheater off the hook…

Digging That Hole

He keeps digging his hole deeper and deeper.  If his scorch the earth antics wouldn’t affect me in the long run, I wouldn’t care.  But, it will affect my children and me financially. Also, his behavior is making me scared, scared for my safety.  Maybe it’s paranoia.  I don’t know.  My line of reasoning is,…

Exercise

I’m not very good at exercising, but I have to take care of myself because I want to live long enough to forget all of this drama. I walked/rode my bicycle.  I say walked/rode because there was a portion of the 3.2 mile trek that was so steeped that I had to get off my…

Homewreckers Other Than the One with Your Husband, Part I

We all know the definition of a homewrecker even if we never actually looked it up in the dictionary.  How does our knowledge of this type of person develops, pre-personal experience? Who knows? Maybe it was a plot line in one of our favorite television show.   Mad Men certainly had a few home wrecking storylines…

Cheaters and Casinos

The Chump Lady’s post today talks about the sordidness of cheaters and casinos. I LMAO LMAO LMAO all the way through it. The similarities that cowardly cheaters share are interesting, more diverting than their contribution to marriage. My cheater used to meet his whore at the casino. He knew how I felt about the casino….

I Don’t Work for Ghosts

If no one gave me a manual and a mentor to help guide me with parenting (mothering) my children, why should I take on the responsibility of being my husband’s child-rearing mentor?  WHY? It’s not my job. I’m not his mother. My job to my children is to be a good parent to them.  It is…

Smart

The following poem sums up my husband’s financial management style.  You couldn’t tell him anything and he was always so sure what he was doing was superior to anyone else’s suggestion. Such as refinancing a house six months after it was bought (and insisting the house was in his name only.  Turns out that doesn’t…

Children

Here is a good read from a father that gets it.