Rage Day

What the hell does he have to be so angry about?  He cheated.  He knew the rules from day one.  We went to pre-martial counseling.  We took the personality tests and did the harmonious relationship comparisons and everything they had at the time to determine if we would be a successful marriage.  If he feigned…

With Love To My Wife

Back in May when I first started purging the house to get ready to move when the divorce is final, I stacked up all the birthday, Valentine’s Day, anniversary, etc. cards from the cheater that I had accumulated over the years. Most of them start with, “’To the love of my life’, ‘Dear Wife’, and…

What Your Husband Told the Homewrecker

If you are easily embarrassed, you should brace yourself at the thought of what your husband has told his whore, the homewrecker. He has told his whore every little inconsequential detail and mannerism of yours and he does it with a poor pitiful, “look what I had to put up” angle. Nothing that you shared…

Red Flags

Infidelity dialogue usually always includes the topic of missed red flags.   I know I talk about the warnings I missed.  I can’t stop.  I don’t know why.  It has to be part of the recover process.  Why else would I return to the red flags over and over again? Indulgence?  Glutton for punishment? Or, on…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part III

Sometimes when I use my Navy Federal Credit Union visa debit/check card, the employee processing my transaction will thank my husband for his service.  I used to keep my mouth shut and not say anything, sort of the way you say, “Fine,” when someone asks you, “How’s your day?” when in actuality your day has…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part II

In the first part of this post about how infidelity exposes cowardliness,  I mentioned how it is the injured spouse who has to resolve the conflict that the cheating spouse created when he avoided addressing the initial problem at home. When children are involved, including adult children, many people will turn to the woman/wife/mother and…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part I

When the divorce attorney asked me about marriage counseling, I was thrown off for a second, but only a second.  Intellectually, I know it is something offered or recommended for many divorcing couples.  However, I haven’t thought of it because from day one, I declared that infidelity would be a deal breaker, and I meant…

Digging That Hole

He keeps digging his hole deeper and deeper.  If his scorch the earth antics wouldn’t affect me in the long run, I wouldn’t care.  But, it will affect my children and me financially. Also, his behavior is making me scared, scared for my safety.  Maybe it’s paranoia.  I don’t know.  My line of reasoning is,…

I Don’t Work for Ghosts

If no one gave me a manual and a mentor to help guide me with parenting (mothering) my children, why should I take on the responsibility of being my husband’s child-rearing mentor?  WHY? It’s not my job. I’m not his mother. My job to my children is to be a good parent to them.  It is…

Homewrecker’s Restraining Order Request: Denied!

Today, Cindy Lou Whore, a homewrecker followed stupid advice from a cowardly cheater and embarrassed herself in court.  She was so worried that the whole world would find out that she is the homewrecker that she is; she went and made it public record.  That’s right; the homewrecker went on public record as a homewrecker. …