Most Homewreckers Are Village Bicycles

It can be difficult after being uprooted and financially abandoned in a strange land. There are no long-term friends that you can turn to in a crisis. The ease of familiarity of place and time is not at your liberty. There can be some drawbacks with being too familiar however, some major drawbacks. Often, those…

“So Much Wasted Time”

Supposedly, David Cassidy’s last words were ,“So much wasted time.” I feel time, acutely.  Every minute of every hour of every day, I worry about the time.  I worry if I did enough each hour to prepare each day for the day that we can move forward.  I worry if I did enough each day…

Wishing Your Ex-Husband Dead

When I laughed again this morning at an article and its comments (mostly the comments) my daughter said she had thought I was just tired last night when I couldn’t breathe from laughing so long and hard over the same comments. Honestly, I hadn’t had that good of a laugh in a long time. The…

Worst Grandpa EVER! Shouldn’t Be Able to Vote

As I continue to purge the house to get ready to move, periodically I find little items that help me exercise my rage. I chucked the mug in the picture out the back door. Initially it didn’t break so I had to keep rage-throwing it to the very back of the lot until it was…

Resolve

Fuckface and his whore stalked the internet every day for hours during the last twelve months hoping to find any little nugget that he could use against me in our divorce trial.  Therefore, I had to stay quiet for a bit to make sure they were not sniffing around here.  Turns out, they were not. …

Rage Day

What the hell does he have to be so angry about?  He cheated.  He knew the rules from day one.  We went to pre-martial counseling.  We took the personality tests and did the harmonious relationship comparisons and everything they had at the time to determine if we would be a successful marriage.  If he feigned…

With Love To My Wife

Back in May when I first started purging the house to get ready to move when the divorce is final, I stacked up all the birthday, Valentine’s Day, anniversary, etc. cards from the cheater that I had accumulated over the years. Most of them start with, “’To the love of my life’, ‘Dear Wife’, and…

What Your Husband Told the Homewrecker

If you are easily embarrassed, you should brace yourself at the thought of what your husband has told his whore, the homewrecker. He has told his whore every little inconsequential detail and mannerism of yours and he does it with a poor pitiful, “look what I had to put up” angle. Nothing that you shared…

Red Flags

Infidelity dialogue usually always includes the topic of missed red flags.   I know I talk about the warnings I missed.  I can’t stop.  I don’t know why.  It has to be part of the recover process.  Why else would I return to the red flags over and over again? Indulgence?  Glutton for punishment? Or, on…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part III

Sometimes when I use my Navy Federal Credit Union visa debit/check card, the employee processing my transaction will thank my husband for his service.  I used to keep my mouth shut and not say anything, sort of the way you say, “Fine,” when someone asks you, “How’s your day?” when in actuality your day has…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part II

In the first part of this post about how infidelity exposes cowardliness,  I mentioned how it is the injured spouse who has to resolve the conflict that the cheating spouse created when he avoided addressing the initial problem at home. When children are involved, including adult children, many people will turn to the woman/wife/mother and…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part I

When the divorce attorney asked me about marriage counseling, I was thrown off for a second, but only a second.  Intellectually, I know it is something offered or recommended for many divorcing couples.  However, I haven’t thought of it because from day one, I declared that infidelity would be a deal breaker, and I meant…