Charity Shop

Unbelievable! The home wrecking whore’s mother owns and runs a charity shop that is supposedly for the benefit of underprivileged children. You cannot make this stuff up! The whore, who was complicit in aiding and abetting the cheater grew up around her mother (and father), who for the last forty-five years peddled the necessity of…

Rage Day

What the hell does he have to be so angry about?  He cheated.  He knew the rules from day one.  We went to pre-martial counseling.  We took the personality tests and did the harmonious relationship comparisons and everything they had at the time to determine if we would be a successful marriage.  If he feigned…

What Your Husband Told the Homewrecker

If you are easily embarrassed, you should brace yourself at the thought of what your husband has told his whore, the homewrecker. He has told his whore every little inconsequential detail and mannerism of yours and he does it with a poor pitiful, “look what I had to put up” angle. Nothing that you shared…

Red Flags

Infidelity dialogue usually always includes the topic of missed red flags.   I know I talk about the warnings I missed.  I can’t stop.  I don’t know why.  It has to be part of the recover process.  Why else would I return to the red flags over and over again? Indulgence?  Glutton for punishment? Or, on…

Homewreckers Other Than the One with Your Husband, Part II

Do you remember in my first post, Homewreckers Other Than the One with Your Husband, Part I, , how I mentioned that it is challenging (to say the least) to get along at work and other social functions in the company of a loud and proud homewrecker. Today was another day working with Melinda, the homewrecker who…

Loss, Part I

All three children (2 toddlers and the oldest barely 7) went through cycles of crying and bouts of vomiting and diarrhea during the first 7-10 days while we travelled and after we got them to our house.  And in the middle of my trauma and my grandchildren’s trauma was my teenager going through the trauma…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part III

Sometimes when I use my Navy Federal Credit Union visa debit/check card, the employee processing my transaction will thank my husband for his service.  I used to keep my mouth shut and not say anything, sort of the way you say, “Fine,” when someone asks you, “How’s your day?” when in actuality your day has…

Infidelity Exposes Cowardliness, Part II

In the first part of this post about how infidelity exposes cowardliness,  I mentioned how it is the injured spouse who has to resolve the conflict that the cheating spouse created when he avoided addressing the initial problem at home. When children are involved, including adult children, many people will turn to the woman/wife/mother and…

Why the Homewrecker is a Whore

When I read people playing the feminist card complaining about how the other woman shouldn’t be blamed when a married man cheats, I can’t do anything but roll my eyes. No one is letting the man off the hook.  It’s not zero sum. Women who are cheated on can’t let the cheater off the hook…

Digging That Hole

He keeps digging his hole deeper and deeper.  If his scorch the earth antics wouldn’t affect me in the long run, I wouldn’t care.  But, it will affect my children and me financially. Also, his behavior is making me scared, scared for my safety.  Maybe it’s paranoia.  I don’t know.  My line of reasoning is,…

Homewreckers Other Than the One with Your Husband, Part I

We all know the definition of a homewrecker even if we never actually looked it up in the dictionary.  How does our knowledge of this type of person develops, pre-personal experience? Who knows? Maybe it was a plot line in one of our favorite television show.   Mad Men certainly had a few home wrecking storylines…

Cheaters and Casinos

The Chump Lady’s post today talks about the sordidness of cheaters and casinos. I LMAO LMAO LMAO all the way through it. The similarities that cowardly cheaters share are interesting, more diverting than their contribution to marriage. My cheater used to meet his whore at the casino. He knew how I felt about the casino….