The Mind of a NON-Cheater Husband

Be not alarmed, Madam, on reading this post, by the apprehension of its containing any political rhetoric.  The following excerpt featuring President Donald Trump and former FBI Director James Comey is used merely as the gateway to demonstrate how a non-cheating husband thinks about the possibility of being accused of cheating.

In first excerpts of an interview with ABC News that will air this weekend, Comey says that the President asked him to disprove allegations contained in the Steele dossier that he had a salacious encounter with prostitutes in a Moscow hotel.

“And then he says something that distracted me because he said, you know, ‘If there’s even a one percent chance my wife thinks that’s true, that’s terrible,'” Comey told ABC’s George Stephanopoulos. “And I remember thinking, ‘How could your wife think there’s a one percent chance you were with prostitutes peeing on each other in Moscow?’ I’m a flawed human being, but there is literally zero chance that my wife would think that was true. So, what kind of marriage to what kind of man does your wife think (that) there’s only a 99 percent chance you didn’t do that?”

[My bolding]

Basically, what Comey is saying is, if you haven’t done anything then your spouse wouldn’t have any reason to be suspicious.

Most people are rational and usually only become suspicious with their spouse when there are behaviors that provoke suspicion. Comey knows for a fact that he has not cheated (or at the very least has never been with prostitutes peeing on each other in Moscow) so he is confident that his wife will not suspect him of such a thing.  That’s how earned trust works.

Many cheaters don’t actually lie (because lying will surely tangle them up) but instead resort to not answering, evading, and/or allowing a false conclusion to be drawn without ever rebutting the truth of the conclusion.

For example: “Are you having an affair?”

Straightforward question, which warrants a yes or no answer.   A non-cheater would say emphatically, “No!” A cheater would divert with something like, “How could you ask me such a thing!” or “Would I jeopardize our family?”  In both examples the cheater didn’t actually answer the question, did he?

So back to Trump, why would he even remotely think that his wife might be suspicious? Enough so that he would ask the Director of the FBI to disprove the allegation.Putting politics aside and looking at the man as a husband, I would say his behavior denotes suspicion.

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