I hate how needy I can be. I also hate the blatant sexism that I see on “Infidelity” blogs. Of course women can and have been cheaters. However, I’m willing to bet that more men are cheaters than women are. What makes it even more devastating is how more men are the breadwinners, thus, leaving the unemployed or minimally employed woman in a worse position. Divorce causes more women to plunge into poverty than men.
His research found that men, meanwhile, tend to see their incomes rise more than 30 percent post-divorce. Meanwhile, the poverty rate for separated women is 27 percent, nearly triple the figure for separated men.
So all is not equal in the Infidelity world, even when the cheated on his the male.
How does that bother me? Other than I’m fucking broke, can’t get a job (and the stress of knowing that every interview and/or typing test is life or death is causing me not to do as well as I normally can), have four children to support and the alimony is taking forever to come through the support enforcement system, it bothers me because clearly I have this blog to reach out. I’m in a desperate situation. I have no support system and the few family members I have cannot bear to listen to it over and over. To be honest, I can’t bear to tell them the same story over and over. Because we all know, “we” meaning the women who get cheated on, chose the cheater once upon a time. “You should’ve known he was going to be a cheater?” How exactly? Did I get a crystal ball before my wedding?
Nevertheless, the one thing that is free — human interaction over the internet goes to…..you guessed it MEN! That’s right. Let a man cry how he was cheated on, or let a man have a blog about his horrible ex-wife or how he cannot see his children and cheated-on women will flock to him and give him all the support in the world. For some reason, no one dismisses him for not having seen it coming. Or for not having his own little nest egg, etc. Let a woman talk about how she has found a man post-divorce, and she is the Belle of the Ball.
Here my blog sits, and crickets. I have gawkers. Oh sure, people like to come and gawk, but almost ZERO fucking support. Yes, I’m angry, because so many “chumps” are fucking frauds. Being cheated on hasn’t taught them anything. The priority is still chasing dick, if not specifically chasing dick, then kowtowing and giving those cookies to men. Talk about not deserving to be a victim. There lies the sexism, right there. How dare a male be made a victim by a woman. Oh how it has to be doubly hard for him! You know, even though his income will increase while mine goes nowhere.
It’s like how precious the general perception of the the stay-at-home dad is. “Oh, look at him at the park with his children, what a great dad.”
Yeah, he isn’t doing anything women haven’t done for centuries.