Why the Homewrecker is a Whore

When I read people playing the feminist card complaining about how the other woman shouldn’t be blamed when a married man cheats, I can’t do anything but roll my eyes.

No one is letting the man off the hook.  It’s not zero sum. Women who are cheated on can’t let the cheater off the hook if they wanted to.  They live and breathe the repercussions of his cheating.  Most of the time if he is still in the house, it’s because the wife is trying to juggle (negotiate) a means of survival. The reality of his cheating squats like a parasite right there in the center of her thoughts all the time.

It’s like wives are obligated to girl code and are expected not to expose a homewrecking whore, even though the homewrecking whore didn’t care about girl code when she was interfering with the marriage.  Another example of how the wife is expected to take the high road.  The high road is code for eat shit.

Three days after the cheating asshole left our house (after being confronted with evidence); he brought the police to get his things.  What a coward! The police were nice enough.  To assure I stayed away from him while he was getting his crap, one of the officers started talking to me about what was going on.  I told him that I found out that my husband was cheating with a whore. Each time I said the word whore, the officer winced (as the newer generation of politically correct trained officers should do, I suspect).  I told him that I noticed his wincing and asked him if he knew of a better word to describe a woman who willingly trudged into our lives and provided escape for a cowardly man who could not do it himself.  He said, “We call them homewreckers.” Well, the word homewrecker is a little too P-G for my anger.  It satisfies nothing.  It relieves nothing.  Whore though, brings it right home.

When cheated-on wives call the homewrecker a whore, it’s because the homewrecker is a whore. No other word conveys what the homewrecker really is other than whore.

Cunt doesn’t get to the root of a homewrecker’s character.  Cunt implies being a woman that pissed off someone (typically a man) really bad, most likely because she did not allow herself to be controlled or manipulated.  For example, a man called me a cunt under his breath because I wouldn’t sell a PlayStation to him for the price he wanted (it was already marked at a rock-bottom garage sale price).

Bitch doesn’t get to the heart of a homewrecking whore’s existence either.  Although bitch is not to the same extent as cunt is, it is normally used to label a woman who did not allow someone to walk all over her in a particular situation.

Slut does not do it either, mainly because the implication of sex and fun, and the whole slut-shaming thing.  The homewrecker isn’t called a whore because she desires and has sex.  She’s a whore because she is figuratively (sometimes literally) willing to go into another woman’s home and interfere with the marriage.

I decided to look up the word whore and see what I find:

Noun

  1. (mildly vulgar or dated) A prostitute.
  2. (vulgar, pejorative) A person who is considered to be sexually promiscuous (see also: slut).
  3. (vulgar) A person who is unscrupulous, especially one who compromises their principles for gain.
  4. (vulgar) A person who will violate behavioral standards to achieve something desired.
  5. (vulgar) A contemptible person.

I think 3, 4, & 5 sums it up beautifully. Although #3 is a little oxymoronic.  Do we really think an unscrupulous woman such as a home wrecking whore ever had any principles to compromise in the first place?

4 & 5 are more like.  Take 4.  Does that not say it all?  A person who will violate behavioral standards to achieve something desired.   And #5, A contemptible person.  Bingo!  With 4 & 5 we have the homewrecker in one word.  Whore.

Women who fuck with married men are low-down dirty whores.

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11 Comments Add yours

  1. foreverchanged2014 says:

    Any woman who knowingly acts inappropriate with a married man is a whore. Make no mistake about that!

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    1. williexplode says:

      And………….that whore (and the cheater) needs to know she is a whore too. LOL! I’m still trying to get over this whore trying to get a restraining order against me for calling her a whore. It’s like we are not only cheated on, but expected not to let anyone know that she is a whore and he is a cheater.

      I refuse to be drafted into that voodoo mind fuckery.

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      1. foreverchanged2014 says:

        What a joke. Restraining order? Wow. My husband’s OW is lucky she lives in another state. She would’ve been in the hospital by now, and I would be wearing orange. Lol How long since dday for you?

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  2. williexplode says:

    I haven’t been able to figure out what D-Day is on The Chump Lady’s site. I started getting suspicious in September 2016. I actually saw with my own eyes, October 1, 2016. I confronted him October 6, 2016, he left the next day. So, which day is D-Day? In court the whore admitted she started seeing him in June 2016. I think they had sex for the first time August 6, 2016. I know this because that was the first night he stayed out really late and it was a few days after the V.A. sent him some Viagra. LOL! Normally, I don’t open his FedEx boxes but something told me to open that one.

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    1. foreverchanged2014 says:

      I have multiple ddays as well. I was just curious as to how long ago you found out. So it’s actually still pretty fresh.
      I’m sorry you find yourself here with us. Being a part of the betrayed group sucks, but thank God for these women here who’ve helped me so much. Personally I stay away from chump lady. I don’t need the negativity about my husband who I chose to stay with. I have enough negativity without reading that.
      Wow, about the viagra! Lol

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      1. williexplode says:

        Where I volunteer there is a woman who stayed with her husband after he cheated (with their baby sitter). Before she got an attorney he forced her and the kids out and moved the baby sitter in. As she was telling me her story I was sure it was going to end that she moved on and found a new husband (because I knew she is currently married), and when she was telling me the story she painted him as a scoundrel. But then she gave me the whipcrack ending, they had reconciled and they were presently together and had worked through it all (ten years later). They were both together at a baby shower that I went to and they seemed to get along alright. I don’t camp at The Chump Lady, but I do like reading some of the topics. I am not in either camp stay or not to stay regarding other women. With me personally it has always been a deal breaker and I didn’t think anything about it when I learned of his affair other than it was over. But when I say that so strongly I realize other women may feel/think that I will judge them when they say they have stayed with their husbands. I don’t know how to say how I feel without risking other women from feeling/thinking that I am judging them. But the Truth is, I don’t care if they stay or not. If staying works for them, it works for them. For me, I know it wouldn’t work. Every single day I would want to fuck him up. Before I confronted him I was already searching for poison ivy to rub it all over his sheets. One of us would’ve been dead if he hadn’t left the next day after I confronted him. I think he left because he knew it. Actually, him leaving will end up giving me more money than I knew I was entitled to. Like, I had no clue that he would have to pay for us (me and the kids) to stay in the house while the divorce was going on. And I didn’t know that I would get any alimony (not yet, when the divorce is final). Since he spends/spent every penny we had I didn’t think there was anything to divide. Lucky for me, he decided to move us to one of the most divorce friendly (for the injured spouse) states in the country. I’m going to end up with more money from him after we divorce than he ever gave me in 20 years. I’m scared to say that aloud. I’m afraid to jinx it, especially since he keeps doing stuff that has kept money from me right now. But we just have to get through this famine. I feel lucky that I haven’t suffered from missing him. I don’t miss him one bit. No one does. Well, I miss the financial stability. Soon as the divorce is over and I move on and am working (with alimony) the pain of not having financial stability will be over. Gone are all of his antics. Gone is all of his way or the highway. He’s the whore’s problem now. They may try to pretend they are having the time of their lives and are happy happy happy. But I know that man to his core. All they have together is talking shit about me. When that gets old for her, she will be left with what he is. Plus, all the months that he is starving us and they are living it up will come to a halt. I just have to keep my anxiety about what the future will be in check and I will make it through this.

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  3. I hate a fucking whore. It’s bad enough that men are weak as fuck, but then you have these women that look at that ring as a challenge.

    But it makes me sick as hell when the betrayed spouse goes after the woman and makes excuses for her weak ass husband. That shit will get me fired up just as fast as the homewrecking whore will. No damn excuse.

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    1. foreverchanged2014 says:

      So confronting the whore isn’t acceptable? No excuses made for the husband mind you in the confrontation. Just a confronting.
      My husband at the time never wore his ring because of the gym and being a chef he couldn’t wear it. He straight up told her he was married with two daughters. She didn’t care. She had a shitty life and wanted mine instead. Thought my husband could give her and her son more than her fiancé could.

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      1. williexplode says:

        For me, I never felt the need to confront my husband’s whore. She solved that anyway when she tried to get a restraining order. I did tell her job about her unprofessional behavior (we were clients at her office). She is listed on the homewrecker site. I am quite sure the cheater and the whore are disappointed that I didn’t go after her. They need the drama and was looking forward to it. I had a blog before that my friends and family knew about. The cheater and whore stayed camped out on that blog. The day I made it private was the day they died. They needed to read my words more than I needed them to read them.

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      2. Confronting the whore is absolutely acceptable. I confronted my ex-fiance’s whore at the mall one day when she thought she would be cute and meet up with me to “clear the air” I told her there was no amount of air that could clear the stench of her rotten crotch. I blamed her for convincing him that the grass was greener. But I blamed him more for being weak and not defending what he already had at home.

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  4. “It’s like wives are obligated to girl code and are expected not to expose a homewrecking whore, even though the homewrecking whore didn’t care about girl code when she was interfering with the marriage. Another example of how the wife is expected to take the high road. The high road is code for eat shit.”
    Preach it, sister. Always expected to “be the better person”, think of the children, be amicable. Definitely all code for eat shit, and with a smile please. That’s what gets you to this place to begin with, putting on a good show for the sake of your marriage. Too bad the cheating, lying asshole we married didn’t think to do the same. And I could not agree more, a whore is a whore is a whore. Homewrecker is the aftermath from being a whore.

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