Digging That Hole

He keeps digging his hole deeper and deeper.  If his scorch the earth antics wouldn’t affect me in the long run, I wouldn’t care.  But, it will affect my children and me financially. Also, his behavior is making me scared, scared for my safety.  Maybe it’s paranoia.  I don’t know.  My line of reasoning is,…

Exercise

I’m not very good at exercising, but I have to take care of myself because I want to live long enough to forget all of this drama. I walked/rode my bicycle.  I say walked/rode because there was a portion of the 3.2 mile trek that was so steeped that I had to get off my…

Homewreckers Other Than the One with Your Husband, Part I

We all know the definition of a homewrecker even if we never actually looked it up in the dictionary.  How does our knowledge of this type of person develops, pre-personal experience? Who knows? Maybe it was a plot line in one of our favorite television show.   Mad Men certainly had a few home wrecking storylines…

Cheaters and Casinos

The Chump Lady’s post today talks about the sordidness of cheaters and casinos. I LMAO LMAO LMAO all the way through it. The similarities that cowardly cheaters share are interesting, more diverting than their contribution to marriage. My cheater used to meet his whore at the casino. He knew how I felt about the casino….

I Don’t Work for Ghosts

If no one gave me a manual and a mentor to help guide me with parenting (mothering) my children, why should I take on the responsibility of being my husband’s child-rearing mentor?  WHY? It’s not my job. I’m not his mother. My job to my children is to be a good parent to them.  It is…

Smart

The following poem sums up my husband’s financial management style.  You couldn’t tell him anything and he was always so sure what he was doing was superior to anyone else’s suggestion. Such as refinancing a house six months after it was bought (and insisting the house was in his name only.  Turns out that doesn’t…

Children

Here is a good read from a father that gets it. 

Exploiting the Soon-To-Be-Ex Phrase

Fact: I am divorcing my husband because he is a lying and cheating scoundrel. When he cheated with his whore, he was my husband; there was absolutely no talk of anyone becoming a soon-to-be-ex anything. Until our divorce is final, I never think about referring to him as anything but my husband whenever his narcissistic buffoonery…

Out of Sight, Out of Mind

It really sounds cliché to keep referring to asshat as a narcissist, but when the shoe fits what else can you call it? If you are divorcing a narcissist, I implore you to make a compelling argument for wage garnishment if it is decided there will be alimony, child support and/or post-majority support (for children…

I Want My Money Back!

Little did I know last year when I forked out $75 for a shirt for my husband’s birthday, that he was fucking a redneck white-trash whore.  It wasn’t really a present from me, but a present from the children.  That’s how we typically gave gifts, –from the children. When Nordstrom sent me a link today…